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Confessions of a Tea-Drinking Southern Belle

Vintage glass pitcher for sweet iced tea
The family tea pitcher

Ice Tea vs. Hot Tea: A Southern Tea Tradition

Recently, I heard a woman on the radio refer to drinking an “ice tea.” Some listeners may have assumed she misspoke—but she hadn’t.

That single phrase marked her unmistakably as a Southerner.

In the South, it’s often ice tea, not “iced tea.” To avoid debate, I eventually adopted a simpler term: cold tea.

Growing Up with Sweet Tea

For the first nineteen years of my life, tea meant one thing: cold, sweet tea. In my North Carolina family, coffee was always hot—but tea was always served cold, never the other way around.

Back then, choices were simple. We bought familiar brands like Lipton or A&P, brewed the tea in a saucepan, and poured it through a well-worn strainer into a sturdy glass pitcher.

Then came the essentials:

  • Generous amounts of sugar
  • Ice cubes from metal trays

I still have that old pitcher. It somehow seems much smaller than I remember.

The Arrival of Instant Tea

When instant tea appeared in the 1950s, it took some time before my family embraced it.

Eventually, it changed how tea was served—individual glasses instead of large pitchers, stirred with long-handled iced tea spoons from the silverware set.

It was a small shift, but a memorable one.

Discovering Hot Tea

Despite living in a household full of coffee drinkers, I never acquired a taste for it. That left a gap—until we met new friends who introduced us to something different.

On our first visit, our hostess asked, “Would you take tea?”

I remember thinking—where am I supposed to take it?

But that simple question changed everything.

Soon, my husband and I were enjoying strong, freshly brewed hot tea, sharing long conversations around the kitchen table. It became part of our daily life and our connection with each other.

A Lifelong Appreciation of Tea

Over time, tea became more than just a beverage. It became an experience:

  • Exploring different tea varieties
  • Collecting teaware and accessories
  • Enjoying quiet moments of reflection
  • Sharing conversations over a pot of tea

Today, high-quality teas from around the world are easy to find, even in small towns across the South.

And yet, among my family and many of my friends, I remain something of an oddity:

“She drinks hot tea.”

Still Choosing Hot Tea

When that comment comes up, I simply smile, reach into my bag, and pull out a favorite like
Darjeeling tea from Taylors of Harrogate.

Then I say, “I’ll just take a cup of tea.”

And that’s all there is to it.

CurtissAnn is the author of several books. Visit CurtissAnnMatlock.com for more information.

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5 responses to “Confessions of a Tea-Drinking Southern Belle”

  1. Born and raised in the crossroads of the West, Northern Utah, I came into trouble from all sides about the beverages. Since my dad was an only child, it was the much older beloved great-aunts and great-uncles, only one step removed from Denmark and Sweden, with their rich coffee traditions, whose homes along with my Grandpa’s, always welcomed us with the lovely aromas of coffee. We children were not allowed to sample, as I will explain later. Mom’s mother had a quite a bit of Irish, so from her my mother inherited the insistence that lightly sweetened warm green tea was the cure for every ill, with a slice of dry lightly toasted white bread. Later, in California, I learned the Scots and English teas and ways of preparing, and actually learned to put cream in tea! I learned Chinese delicate teas with no sweeteners. In France, the heavy strong coffees captivated me, and I liked it black. Now all this would be fine, except for one thing—I am a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, and we do not drink tea or coffee. Given my liking for both by the time I reached my late teens, along with a strong desire to live my religion, I definitely had a dilemma. Not to fear, I discovered 100% herbal teas. I like these both warm and as ice tea, sometimes sweetened, sometimes not. I even have a lovely ‘recipe’ for Southern Sweet Tea, courtesy of the daughter. I also found barley drinks that can be served warm, and have an interesting flavor, and the brown color. So I am okay on both counts now. When I want a cuppa, I have choices that are within my religion and my tastes.

    1. Carolyn- what a delightful tale! Who knew there were so many tea journeys out there? Hugs, CA

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  2. I was raised in Southern California, which isn’t very … er, Southern. I grew up with both hot and iceD tea. But I didn’t have my first sweet tea until a Southern-style restaurant opened up in town about seven years ago!

    I may be late to the party, but I know a good thing when I taste it.

    (I also tried peanuts in my Coke around that time and I really liked it … but boy, what a way to pack on the pounds!)

  3. I was raised in the North, and married a man from Oklahoma and spent the next 25 years living in that state or in Texas. I quickly imbraced Ice Tea, but having never drank hot tea with sugar in it, I preferred the iced unsweetened, too. When I visited Hubby’s family and new friends, they offered tea, I would ask if it was sweetened and they would reply, “Only a little,” probably meaning they didn’t put the full cup of sugar in it. That is like saying someone is only a little pregnant. My in-laws loved me, however, and they soon began making both sweetened and unsweetened tea at family gatherings and I was never forced to drink tea with sugar in it. I drink my tea mostly hot these days, and still without sugar.

  4. Until I was in my 20’s, I’d just ask for “tea” (not ice, iced, or cold) in restaurants, and they would bring me a large glass of tea over ice, usually with tons of sugar. In my 20’s I ventured “up north” and ordered “tea” in a restaurant, only to have the waitress look at me strangely and ask “hot or cold?” I’m sure I looked back at her with an equally strange look and replied “cold”. I’d never been asked to make that choice before.
    Years have passed, now I drink both hot and cold tea. And I now know to specify “sweet” or “unsweet”, too!

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